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Your Passion Plan for female arousal

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Nov 16, 2007 - 3:58:00 PM

New research on female arousal says avoiding her turnoffs is just as important as hitting hot spots.


It takes the right blend of social and situational stimuli to bring a woman's sexual systems online. Here's how to play both sides.


1. Connect, quickly
DO THIS: First impressions, good or bad, quickly snowball, according to a 2006 MIT study. "You have to  prove you have a lot in common as  quickly as possible,"  says Dan Ariely, Ph.D., a professor of behavioral economics and the study author. "Or it will go downhill from there." Move fast: "Ask an open-ended question that highlights someone or something in common," says Amy DeZellar, author of Dating Amy.  Try "How do you know so-and-so"? or "Nice Bears hat--what do you think of Grossman?"

NOT THIS: Talk her head off Women want three things out of a first move: confidence, conversation, and chemistry. Hit your marks, and then peel off. "Depth, not length, builds intimacy," says Diane Mapes, author of How to Date in a Post-Dating World.

2. Make your friends hers, too
DO THIS:  Prove you're not just on the prowl by introducing her to your friends.  Circle back to your initial conversation, drop a self-effacing quip, offer a compliment, or do all three: "This is Carrie. She's amazing. And I think she may still be recovering from my earsplitting karaoke..." Northwestern University researchers studying speed-dating behavior found that a woman's sexual and romantic desires are most aroused when your affection is perceived as unique in some way; praising her among your friends does exactly that. "Women have a sophisticated intuition for gauging romantic interest," says study author Paul Eastwick, Ph.D.(c). "Introducing her to your friends could show her you're not just looking for a one-night stand."

NOT THIS: Back her into a corner Remember that you're confident enough not to deploy the conversational tractor beam--and you're not just looking for a fling. Still, the connection was meaningful, and you'll want to find a way to double back.

3. Notice her hidden talent
DO THIS: Women are most receptive to praise when it reveals insight into their uncommon personality traits, Canadian researchers found. So  tailor a compliment that subtly massages her ego.  If she's a natural-born storyteller, say, "I could listen to you all night." You'll prove you see past her drool-inducing halter top and Wonderbra.

NOT THIS: Give weak physical praise If you must, emphasize superlatives: "You have the most beautiful smile I've ever seen."

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Your Passion Plan for female arousal

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